partnermine.com - Dating Hints and Tips

Home

Dating Hints and Tips for Teenagers, Seniors, Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered People

You've placed your personals advert, they like your picture, you've looked at their personals advert and you like their picture. Oh wow. What next?

Most people deny that they need a dating tip or two. And then they search for dating tips and wonder how they managed without them. Of course no-one is about to say "I read the dating tips on partnermine.com" when they meet their date.

There are quite a few categories. And they are all similar.

Senior Dating

The people who seem to ask for the most tips are Seniors. Seniors left the dating scene a few years back. Senior dating is seen as a challenge because our senior friends often forgot how to be romantic in their earlier partnerships. If they lost a partner to divorce or separation the loss of the romance is so often the cause. And you know what? There isn't much difference between guys and girls here!

Seniors need to:

Hint one: Remember that life is fun.
Hint two: Stop comparisons with their prior partner.
Hint three: Let go and start to live again
Hint four: Make the date fun for your new dating partner.
Hint five: Remember that senior years do not give anyone the right to be boring.
Hint six: Flatter your date with true sincerity.
Hint one: Be honest. Above all be honest.
Hint seven: Remember that it is possible to kiss on the first date.
Hint eight: Attend to those stray hairs. Over 50s get nasal and ear hair. And eyebrows get bushy. So trim it. Your date does not want to see it.
Hint nine: Wear the right clothes for the date. A suit may have been great for work, but it may be 100% wrong for the soft lit restaurant you have in mind together.
Hint ten: Don't power dress. Dress to show who you are. Dating is finding common ground.
Hint eleven: SMS (text message) your date afterwards: "I had a lovely time. May we do it again?" Do it about 5 minutes after you part. Do not forget.
Hint twelve: If you were treated, write a very short "Bread and Butter" thank you note. "It was a lovely evening. You made me feel wonderful. Thank you for dinner; may I buy it next time?"

And always ask your date about themselves. And listen. This is not about waiting your turn to speak. Dating is getting to know them, and allowing them to get to know you. Later it is about finding love. But love and dating are separate things, certainly at first. So take it slow and steady. Watch out for smiles. And, while you may find them hugely attractive, do not pressure them into coming back "for a nightcap" unless it's obvious you both want to.

Teenage Dating

This is so obvious as soon as we hit thirty! We see everything we did wrong as a teen. Lordy if only we'd had Hints then! And why not let's include early twenty-somethings in the teenage years, too? I remember how I really thought I knew it all when I was a teenager trying to date. But I blew it each time. I had no-one to ask for tips. And the teenagers I hung out with were as akward at dating as I was. Teenage dating is so often about the desire for sex. So few of us, as teenagers dating others actually think about our partner as a person. And really that is the first Hint. We're selfish. We see a sex object, fancy it and "go for it". And that sucks. So our tip is "stop it."

How many good friendships have we lost by forgetting to be romantic when we're dating? How wonderful it would be to have our old dates in our social circle today. Well, not all of them, obviously. So Hints say "be romantic". I know those big advice and hints sites dismiss teenagers as not wanting romance, but our tip is to be romatic anyway.

Teenagers tend to word poor personals adverts. Their dating profiles tend to be short and they can't make them longer because they "can't think what to say". So teenage dating starts before the date.

Teenage Dating Hints and Tips:

Hint one: Know what is good and what is less good about themselves. And show the good side.
Hint two: Remember not to upset or offend your date's parents. Actually the first date almost is with the parents because they'll ask!
Hint three: Dress well. Jeans with the backside hanging out do not give a parent confidence that their little Sam or Samantha is going to be taken care of properly.
Hint four: Get your date back home on time.
Hint five: Realise that, while sex may be on offer, friendship is the best thing to build.
Hint four: Talk to them about them and listen to their answers. Do not "wait for your turn to speak".
Hint five: Know that to find someone to love is the most wonderful thing in the world. And to find someone who loves you in return is bliss.
Hint six: Do low cost things. No-one needs a 5 course meal for a date. The Bowling Alley is fine. So is a walk in the park.
Hint seven: Share expenses. I don't mean split everything down the middle. But you buy this and let them buy that.
Hint eight: SMS (text message) your date afterwards: "I had a lovely time. May we do it again?" Do it about 5 minutes after you part. Do not forget. Don't do it in "textese", do it in full words.

Teenage Dating Hints and Tips, huh? Yes, we all need them. And the Twenty-somthings need them too. Are you convinced now?

Not a Teenager, not a Senior?

Hmm, the difficult group, eh? But you aren't so different from Teenagers who are dating for the first time, nor from seniors dating often after a romance ended for one reason or another. It's just that, in general you have more money, more self confidence. Otherwise the science of dating is truly simple. Your sole objective is to allow them to talk to you about themselves.

You may be busy with work, or studies, or be a single parent, but you still want to date. You need to:

Hint one: Remember that life is fun.
Hint two: Make the date fun for your new dating partner.
Hint three: Flatter your date with true sincerity.
Hint four: Be honest. Above all be honest.
Hint five: Remember that it is possible to kiss on the first date.
Hint six: Wear the right clothes for the date. A suit may have been great for work, but it may be 100% wrong for the soft lit restaurant you have in mind together.
Hint seven: Don't power dress. Dress to show who you are. Dating is finding common ground.
Hint eight: SMS (text message) your date afterwards: "I had a lovely time. May we do it again?" Do it about 5 minutes after you part. Do not forget.
Hint nine: If you were treated, write a very short "Bread and Butter" thank you note. "It was a lovely evening. You made me feel wonderful. Thank you for dinner; may I buy it next time?"
Hint ten: The Office is not going to crumble if you are off duty this evening. Turn the damned mobile phone off! Not "silent". Off!
Hint eleven: So you have kids. It's Ok to mention that. It is not Ok to make them a feature of the date, though

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgendered Dating

You've placed your personals advert, they like your picture, you've looked at their personals advert and you like their picture. Oh wow. What next?

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgendered Dating

Why should this be any different from straight dating? We don't think it should. But we recognise that some gay men have a media reputation for a degree of promiscuity. Well, if you're promiscuous we don't think you'll need our tips. It's if you want a romantic date that you may. And you know what? Being gay or lesbian is no different from being straight. The basics of love, respect and romance hold firm whatever your orientation.

We researched a very large dating advice site and asked about dating advice for GLBT people. The upshot of the advice was very rude! It implied that dating and GLBT was not compatible, and that romance was not allowed. We say "Bullshit!" very loudly at this point. That's because we know a huge number of GLBT people whose romantic relationships and leanings would make heterosexual people ashamed to try to compare with them.

GLBT People need to:

Hint one: Remember that life is fun.
Hint two: Make the date fun for your new dating partner.
Hint three: Flatter your date with true sincerity.
Be four. Above all be honest.
Hint five: Remember that it is possible to kiss on the first date.
Hint six: Wear the right clothes for the date. A suit may have been great for work, but it may be 100% wrong for the soft lit restaurant you have in mind together.
Hint seven: Make sure the environment is suitable for holding hands and public displays of affection. I wish society were kinder, but it seems that two girls can hold hands but two boys may not, in most places.
Hint one: Don't power dress. Dress to show who you are. Dating is finding common ground.
Hint eight: SMS (text message) your date afterwards: "I had a lovely time. May we do it again?" Do it about 5 minutes after you part. Do not forget.
Hint nine: If you were treated, write a very short "Bread and Butter" thank you note. "It was a lovely evening. You made me feel wonderful. Thank you for dinner; may I buy it next time?"